Let’s first set some perimeters around here. If you’ve been dumped, stood up (on dates even) or cheated on, then I guess you better read on. Maybe we can include those suckers for romance who somehow get wound up with people who can’t commit, those poor souls that experience unrequited love, those in long-distance love affairs that can’t seem to work, in other words all that other people would normally give their sympathy to. Perhaps one should automatically come to his senses when any of the above happens to him. Perhaps there really would come a time when we should ask ourselves, “is it time to move on?” Here’s what I have:
1) Have a solid support group of friends whom you can vent out to. These people most likely are the ones who know the ins and outs of your life and the love department too. Once you get to pour out your emotions verbally, try to not have the same conversations over and over again. And let them swear that no reports about “the one who must not be named” should be shared to you even if you twist their arms.
2) Don’t hesitate to cry or even do the über melodramatic and Oscar-winning moment but please do it privately and sparingly if not once.
3) Avoid “forbidden” places and people. You don’t want to get yourself caught off-guard with that “WTF! What am I gonna do?” look on your face.
4) Get rid of anything that will remind you of your sweet memories – pictures, gifts, etc. Even the mp3 files on your cellphone! But don’t overdo it though, there’s no need to return the gifts given to you, just keep them in a storage room or something.
5) Don’t watch movies that have love story themes. The funny or scary ones usually come in handy.
6) No looking out the window while it’s raining outside (and love song playing in the background). Oh please, this is just so pathetic!
7) If there’s an obvious pattern on the relationships and dates you’ve had, try to indulge yourself with some change the next time around.
8) Keep yourself busy and productive. Take on new and exciting projects at work. Engage yourself in a new hobby. Read books. Go on out of town trips.
9) Don’t let yourself be left alone. Always tag along your best pal with you! This is not just to keep you company but to immediately safeguard you from any untoward events of bumping into someone you’re not ready to see. Of course, proper orientation and briefing applies to the helpful friend.
10) Avoid people who talk negatively about love, relationships and their ex’s. Bitterness is so 12 years ago! The last thing you want to feel is this after being heartbroken you know.
I’m sure there’s a whole lot of ways to deal with moving on issues and yes, they may vary from person to person. What may work for some may not necessarily work for others. One thing will surely remain common though, once someone DECIDES to move on (and be successful at it), it damn feels so good to fall in love again!
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yeah break-ups suck, at one point in everyone's life we all go through it and there is no instant overnight cure for the pain that comes with it, everyone deals with it each in their own way but i find the best way is to surround yourself with positivity instead of dwelling in self loathing and remember that you are not alone in dealing with situations like this, everyone has gone through fuck ups after all even the best people fall flat in their faces, we all have our low points, so chin up and be positive and be open to what others have to say because you never know what other valuable piece of info they can give you, at this point you'll need all the help you can get, the best way to be a student of life is being humble and open to where life takes you... anyway just my two cents worth coming from someone who's gone through a lot too... good day! hope to see you soon!
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